The Best Laid Plans Often Go Awry


Ever since that night when the concept of a new house became an idea, the wheels that eventually resulted in our October move were set in motion. Meticulous plans evolved and were followed. It was exciting to see a concept become reality, and every step of the process brought it’s own unique ups and downs.

Most of what we expected to happen played out the way we planned, except for two things. One was the cost, which even with the predicable overruns was significantly higher than what we expected, but we fortunately were able to navigate that hurdle. The other fly in the ointment has turned out to be more unexpected and troublesome.

The original plan of breaking ground in the late fall, which is not optimum, was based on the desire to move during the summer. But as spring was drawing to a close, it became obvious that a summer move was in jeopardy.

There were a variety of reasons for this, none of which are worth getting into, but as the days dragged on, K took charge and lit a fire under the subcontractors because our biggest fear was to move after the peak period for real estate sales had come and gone. Progress accelerated from that point but, as you know if you have been following this blog, we didn’t move until October.

While this was concerning, there was no reason to go into a full-blown panic. Admittedly, nobody wants to move to a new town after the school year starts, but late September/early October is a beautiful time of the year, and the views from our hillside home are spectacular when the foliage is in full display. We had transitioned from focusing on the new house to getting our current one clean, painted and move-in ready. Even though it was late in the game, it wasn’t too late. Or so we thought.

We’ve never been lucky when it comes to real estate, but heard plenty of stories about people selling their houses within days of it going on the market, particularly in our area, and we harbored fantasies of that finally happening to us. It soon became apparent however that the market had slowed to a crawl because we couldn’t generate much interest, and now that we are in the midst of the holiday season, it is absolutely dead.


Carrying two mortgages and having to maintain two places was never part of the equation, but that is our reality. The question now becomes what to do next. At some point we are going to have to take the house off the market until spring. But when? I don’t expect anything to occur between now and January 1st, unless by some miracle a family relocates due to a job change and needs a new home. The question is whether to wait a few weeks after the first to see if anything pops.

Double fuck!!

In the interim, it feels like we’re taking a torch to our remaining assets while this drama unfolds. Two sets of mortgages, property taxes, insurance policies, snow removal and utilities will do that. The added shame of it is that this has taken some of the joy out of living in our new abode, which we absolutely love. If there is a silver lining, and I’m stretching to find one, it’s that winter is coming. During this time we generally hunker down and don’t do a lot, which means we don’t spend a lot, which is important because these next few months are going to be lean and mean.

Triple fuck!!! 

I’m convinced this unfortunate development is all a matter of bad timing. Every agent who looked at the place after it was placed on the market said the house was beautiful and wouldn’t have a problem selling. Our current agent is frustrated because she can’t even recommend we do something to the house to make it more attractive, other than perhaps drop the price, which we have already done once.

Here’s the dilemma. If we lower the price to the “sweet spot” that is being suggested, which we aren’t that far above now, what happens if we’re in the same boat come spring?  I’d want to start higher when the demand is higher, but will that fly? Probably not.

I truly believe that if this Hail Mary doesn’t work, the real estate market will heat up by March, and we’ll have an offer on the house in the blink of an eye. If that turns out to be wishful thinking, we can still manage, but that would involve an option we’d prefer not to consider and creates a different set of issues.

I was beside myself when this part of the plan went up in flames, but have ridden that wave and developed a plan that gets us to early spring. If we are still in that same boat by then, I guess we could try to rent the place to help stop the bleeding, but that isn’t an option we relish whatsoever.

Needless to say, never in my wildest imagination did think we’d be choking on this huge lump Christmas coal last December. But here we are, with no quick resolution in sight.






Author: Steve Markesich

I am loving husband, a doting father, a Red Sox fanatic, an aspiring novelist and MS advocate. Feel free to check out my web site.

14 thoughts on “The Best Laid Plans Often Go Awry”

  1. Hi Steve, Have you considered renting the house? A short term rental? Or doing Air BNB? My son in New Mexico has just purchased a second house but they are keeping the first house and the plan is to rent short term or Air BNB. For years they have had a small apartment over their garage which they rented as Air BNB and have done very well. Apparently a lot of business folks are doing Air BNB rather than hotels; also they have had traveling nurses who rent for week or months so it isn’t just vacationers. Something to consider.

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      1. Which would be ideal for Germany. Most the apartments you rent here are completely unfurnished. Just send it over here and I’ll rent in on your behalf.
        (it doesn’t hurt to try; we used to buy furniture on a regular basis when moving into a new apt; better than nothing)

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  2. I’m sorry to hear all this Steve. Property, the transitioning, is almost always a gamble one way or the other. You are right, ‘best laid plans’…obviously there are no answers here that I’m sure you haven’t already thought yourself. I like the ABNB rental but where it’s unfurnished that doesn’t work either. Regarding your price come March…regardless of what you do this year…come the season for selling and moving, you can increase the price: supply and demand is the game. Keep us posted. Meanwhile….focus on the silver lining; new house, gorgeous view…because this situation will pass and there’s no point in spending all the interim time looking at the black cloud. 🙂

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  3. Oh Steve I am so very sorry. We have moved a TON of times over the years, in fact, once it was over the holidays. We were told to make the house we were selling look very festive so people could see themselves in your home for the holidays. Since your house is empty maybe it would be worth buying a already decorated and prelit tree and some wreaths for the doors. We also offered a bonus to the realtor who could sell the house by the end of the year. It worked! 🙂


  4. Thought I replied here! Steve, I was so hoping your very next post would be good news about the sale, and the closing of that chapter as this one opens. I know that’s got to be rough (and stressful as heck!). Best wishes to you and the family on a quick resolution and, obviously, hang in there!

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